max and marcus comin bedok area for dinner before we proceed to the Virtua Cop 2 Alcohol Challenge later mwahaha.. either way, before they arrive i bumped into a very interesting thread on the NO Forums so i thought i'd just share some of the snippets :)
firstly before we carry on, the nature of this thread is with regards to Platonic Love. no idea what that is? No worries you stupid cunt, here's a link! [PLATONIC LOVE, BITCH.]
THREAD TITLE: The Ultimate Sex Question: Can a girl and a guy ever be friends?
this is openin post, yo...
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We all remember When Harry Met Sally, when Billy Crystal tried to convince a confused Meg Ryan 'no, they can't... the sex thing always gets in the way.'
I've always agreed with that, albeit in a broad manner. I've had enough female friends where nothing has happened between us, but there are moments, there have been moments, when things could have if they had been allowed to with all or most of them (depending on attraction and, of course, the lighting in a particular room, amount of alcohol, etc.).
What has transpired very recently is that a friend of mine, incredibly hot with DD tits (I had to mention that detail so everyone knows what I was dealing with), suddenly started chatting with me a lot more, and more, and more, even though she knew I have a girlfriend. I realised something was different a little too late, and suddenly, being the red-blooded male that I am, began to get incredibly turned on by our frequent interaction. It was completely sexual, and last week things came to such a heated precipice that I had to cut it out cold. I ignored her calls, blocked her on MSN, etc.
Well now, she hates me. We finally spoke and she admitted she 'had always had a thing' for me, but she would never pursue it due to me being in a very happy, healthy relationship. But our friendship is pretty much dead now, even if she doesn't see it. I can't see her, or hang out with her, I'll end up jumping her and vice versa.
I've known her for eight years, and all throughout either I was going out with someone else or she was, so we never actually dated. Under the thin veil of 'friendship' we hung out quite a bit, but because the issue was never, ever discussed, we ignored it until, well, things ran their course.
I'm in no way sad, but it IS sad that people end up losing best friends over shit like this.
So am I right in my agreement with Billy Crystal's character? Certainly my own experiences have proven so, even though I've had female friends. I know, being the kind of honry-ass person I am, if ever there was a chance of a one-nighter with any of them, I'd have no qualms about it. I'm just being honest.
On which side of the fence do you guys sit?
Dave: I love how you felt you had to point out the size of her knockers.
Crumpy Gunt: Get her rattled you gay fecker.
to which the dude replied, "I was sooo close to doing it. But no, I must stand strong. Infidelity is so passe, so passe, so passe... *mutters himself to sleep*"
Pilko: Girls and guys can be friends, there's a lot of girls I'm friends with, yet at the same time I'd love to grab some of them and do 48 hours under the sheets.
NE6: Giver her (the chick that wanted to bang the dude) a pearl necklace to make up.
JohnnyHall: It's hard. Very fucking hard. But possible...just.
That actually brings up another point.
My gf has been friends with a guy for a long, long time, and I never thought anything of it until the past summer when he brought her an expensive necklace from England.
I was like, wtf... which 'friend' gives a necklace as a present? She said she kinda felt weird about it too, but I'm not one to put my nose in her friendships. The thing is, if this guy does fancy her, it brings us back to the original post, is a male-female friendship -- strict friendship, without any touch-rub -- possible?
NE6: Sounds to me like he's been snaking your lass, don't shoot the messenger.
Quagmire:
"I actually feel sorry for him as she told me he's been in love with some other girl for years but hasn't had the courage to tell her, and she routinely brings about new bfs for him to glare at.
He's a nice lad, harmless, but the necklace thing did make it all a bit awkward."
NE6: He's trying to tell you in a round about way he's wanting to bang your lass, and has been wanting to for a very long time.
AND THEN THE CONVERSATION MOVED ONTO: WHAT IS LOVE?
apparently,
this is the answer lol
anyway lets move on ;)
LucaAltieri:
Ok, ok...
Love is a feeling of attraction that's created by chemical reactions in the brain.
It's precursor, lust, is something similar yet distinctly different. It is is also more potent.
New girl fills you with lust and it's exciting. Old girl may fall into the "love" category.
Now it's perfectly normal to not feel 'in love' 24/7. Lust is a 24/7 plight... love isn't necessarily.
Lust burns strong, brighter, but lasts only a short time. This is why many relationships end after the "honeymoon period." Lust disappears quickly.
Love endures longer but also takes much longer to develop.
Unless you see your current lady as a dead-end then I wouldn't move on to new lady as your interest in her is more than likely fleeting (if relationship statistics are anything to go by).
My suggestion would be to see if your current bird has any interest in a 3-some.
"I can't (scared to) look into the future, but speaking in strictly the present I'm happy, and have no reason to stray. But then one wonders about issues such as mortality and lust suddenly becomes more prevalent in thought. It's like Alan Alda's advice to his grandson in Little Miss Sunshine:
"Fuck as much pussy as you can, kid." "
LucaAltieri:
That's pretty much the nature of the beast. We're hard wired to do that.
However, we're also hard wired to need acceptance, encouragement, a feeling of self-worth, and a whole load of other stuff that you can't get from a night on the town.
It's up to you which is the stronger need at the minute.
"The latter. Which is why I cut it off with the other girl before it even began. However, it's the internal conflict that is constantly raging which bugs me (and I'm sure all others who're in a relationship/married, etc.).
Fidelity is a test of human character of the highest order."
LucaAltieri:
Like you wouldn't believe.
This last year I've been back up north while my girlfriend is still in Italy. I haven't had any in a good few months now (which explains why I spend my weekends debating free will with HTT).
There's a girl at work who most definitely wants it and would most definitely get it in any other situation.
It's crippling.
But it's a battle that we fight in every aspect of our lives and have done since time began.
Instant gratification vs. long term benefits.
Do I eat the chocolate I want now or do I enjoy not being obese?
Do I buy that crap I don't need or do I put the money in the bank?
Do I bang the girl at work or do I wait until my girlfriend arrives on Monday?
to which i replied:
Yeah, why not? It's possible to do both.
Might sound like a cunt but when I was in a relationship, I'd cheat on my girlfriend. A night out with the guys at the club and if I do pull something and get the chance to pull the trigger, I pull it.
It just depends whether you've got the stomach to do it though. Some people can't, it makes them feel sick that's why they'd have this problem.
I just tell them cheating is ok. Just don't get caught
It's all part of being a modern man.
It's strange actually. When i first saw the thread title, i thought - 'of course'. I've had plenty of female friends and i consider one female mate of mine to be one of my very best.
... but then i thought about it and Christ - i don't think i've sustained a long-term friendship with a lass that i haven't wanted to bone rigid.
and their replies lol...
Ozzie: So does wanting to bone someone rigid mean that you're not friends?
AfroP: if you do her up the bum its not technically cheating you know. just thought i'd throw that one out there
Tooj: What about if she does you up the bum?
Lien: Big problems.
LucaAltieri: Marry her.
Tooj:
maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan these guys are funny cunts
either way, merry xmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mwahahaha
posted by fucking king of cb @ Wednesday, December 24, 2008
firstly before we carry on, the nature of this thread is with regards to Platonic Love. no idea what that is? No worries you stupid cunt, here's a link! [PLATONIC LOVE, BITCH.]
THREAD TITLE: The Ultimate Sex Question: Can a girl and a guy ever be friends?
this is openin post, yo...---
We all remember When Harry Met Sally, when Billy Crystal tried to convince a confused Meg Ryan 'no, they can't... the sex thing always gets in the way.'
I've always agreed with that, albeit in a broad manner. I've had enough female friends where nothing has happened between us, but there are moments, there have been moments, when things could have if they had been allowed to with all or most of them (depending on attraction and, of course, the lighting in a particular room, amount of alcohol, etc.).
What has transpired very recently is that a friend of mine, incredibly hot with DD tits (I had to mention that detail so everyone knows what I was dealing with), suddenly started chatting with me a lot more, and more, and more, even though she knew I have a girlfriend. I realised something was different a little too late, and suddenly, being the red-blooded male that I am, began to get incredibly turned on by our frequent interaction. It was completely sexual, and last week things came to such a heated precipice that I had to cut it out cold. I ignored her calls, blocked her on MSN, etc.
Well now, she hates me. We finally spoke and she admitted she 'had always had a thing' for me, but she would never pursue it due to me being in a very happy, healthy relationship. But our friendship is pretty much dead now, even if she doesn't see it. I can't see her, or hang out with her, I'll end up jumping her and vice versa.
I've known her for eight years, and all throughout either I was going out with someone else or she was, so we never actually dated. Under the thin veil of 'friendship' we hung out quite a bit, but because the issue was never, ever discussed, we ignored it until, well, things ran their course.
I'm in no way sad, but it IS sad that people end up losing best friends over shit like this.
So am I right in my agreement with Billy Crystal's character? Certainly my own experiences have proven so, even though I've had female friends. I know, being the kind of honry-ass person I am, if ever there was a chance of a one-nighter with any of them, I'd have no qualms about it. I'm just being honest.
On which side of the fence do you guys sit?
Dave: I love how you felt you had to point out the size of her knockers.
Crumpy Gunt: Get her rattled you gay fecker.
to which the dude replied, "I was sooo close to doing it. But no, I must stand strong. Infidelity is so passe, so passe, so passe... *mutters himself to sleep*"
Pilko: Girls and guys can be friends, there's a lot of girls I'm friends with, yet at the same time I'd love to grab some of them and do 48 hours under the sheets.
NE6: Giver her (the chick that wanted to bang the dude) a pearl necklace to make up.
JohnnyHall: It's hard. Very fucking hard. But possible...just.
That actually brings up another point.My gf has been friends with a guy for a long, long time, and I never thought anything of it until the past summer when he brought her an expensive necklace from England.
I was like, wtf... which 'friend' gives a necklace as a present? She said she kinda felt weird about it too, but I'm not one to put my nose in her friendships. The thing is, if this guy does fancy her, it brings us back to the original post, is a male-female friendship -- strict friendship, without any touch-rub -- possible?
NE6: Sounds to me like he's been snaking your lass, don't shoot the messenger.
Quagmire:
"I actually feel sorry for him as she told me he's been in love with some other girl for years but hasn't had the courage to tell her, and she routinely brings about new bfs for him to glare at.
He's a nice lad, harmless, but the necklace thing did make it all a bit awkward."
NE6: He's trying to tell you in a round about way he's wanting to bang your lass, and has been wanting to for a very long time.
AND THEN THE CONVERSATION MOVED ONTO: WHAT IS LOVE?
apparently,
this is the answer lol
anyway lets move on ;)
LucaAltieri:
Ok, ok...Love is a feeling of attraction that's created by chemical reactions in the brain.
It's precursor, lust, is something similar yet distinctly different. It is is also more potent.
New girl fills you with lust and it's exciting. Old girl may fall into the "love" category.
Now it's perfectly normal to not feel 'in love' 24/7. Lust is a 24/7 plight... love isn't necessarily.
Lust burns strong, brighter, but lasts only a short time. This is why many relationships end after the "honeymoon period." Lust disappears quickly.
Love endures longer but also takes much longer to develop.
Unless you see your current lady as a dead-end then I wouldn't move on to new lady as your interest in her is more than likely fleeting (if relationship statistics are anything to go by).
My suggestion would be to see if your current bird has any interest in a 3-some.
"I can't (scared to) look into the future, but speaking in strictly the present I'm happy, and have no reason to stray. But then one wonders about issues such as mortality and lust suddenly becomes more prevalent in thought. It's like Alan Alda's advice to his grandson in Little Miss Sunshine:
"Fuck as much pussy as you can, kid." "
LucaAltieri:
That's pretty much the nature of the beast. We're hard wired to do that.
However, we're also hard wired to need acceptance, encouragement, a feeling of self-worth, and a whole load of other stuff that you can't get from a night on the town.
It's up to you which is the stronger need at the minute.
"The latter. Which is why I cut it off with the other girl before it even began. However, it's the internal conflict that is constantly raging which bugs me (and I'm sure all others who're in a relationship/married, etc.).
Fidelity is a test of human character of the highest order."
LucaAltieri:
Like you wouldn't believe.
This last year I've been back up north while my girlfriend is still in Italy. I haven't had any in a good few months now (which explains why I spend my weekends debating free will with HTT).
There's a girl at work who most definitely wants it and would most definitely get it in any other situation.
It's crippling.
But it's a battle that we fight in every aspect of our lives and have done since time began.
Instant gratification vs. long term benefits.
Do I eat the chocolate I want now or do I enjoy not being obese?
Do I buy that crap I don't need or do I put the money in the bank?
Do I bang the girl at work or do I wait until my girlfriend arrives on Monday?
to which i replied:
Yeah, why not? It's possible to do both.
Might sound like a cunt but when I was in a relationship, I'd cheat on my girlfriend. A night out with the guys at the club and if I do pull something and get the chance to pull the trigger, I pull it.
It just depends whether you've got the stomach to do it though. Some people can't, it makes them feel sick that's why they'd have this problem.
I just tell them cheating is ok. Just don't get caught
It's all part of being a modern man.
It's strange actually. When i first saw the thread title, i thought - 'of course'. I've had plenty of female friends and i consider one female mate of mine to be one of my very best.... but then i thought about it and Christ - i don't think i've sustained a long-term friendship with a lass that i haven't wanted to bone rigid.
and their replies lol...
Ozzie: So does wanting to bone someone rigid mean that you're not friends?
AfroP: if you do her up the bum its not technically cheating you know. just thought i'd throw that one out there
Tooj: What about if she does you up the bum?
Lien: Big problems.
LucaAltieri: Marry her.
Tooj:
maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan these guys are funny cunts
either way, merry xmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mwahahaha
